If you are polite and courteous, you will enjoy the friendship of many people. Exchange greetings with many, but take advice from only one person out of a thousand. When you make friends, do not be too quick to trust them; make sure that they have proved themselves. Some people will be your friends only when it is convenient for them, but they will not stand by you in trouble. Others will fall out with you over some argument, and then embarrass you by letting everyone know about it. Others will sit at your table as long as things are going well; they will stick to you like your shadow and give order to your servants, but they will not stand by you in trouble. If your situation takes a turn for the worse, they will turn against you, and you will not be able to find them anywhere. Stay away from your enemies and be on guard against your friends. A loyal friend is like a safe shelter; find one, and you have found a treasure. Nothing else is as valuable; there is no way of putting a price on it. A loyal friend is like a medicine that keeps you in good health. Only those who fear the Lord can find such a friend. A person who fears the Lord can make real friendships, because he will treat his friends as he does himself.
FRIENDSHIP WITH OTHERS
Never abandon an old friend; you will never find a new one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine; it gets better as it grows older. Do not be jealous of a sinner's success; you do not know what kind of disaster is in store for him. Do not take pleasure in the things that make ungodly people happy; remember that they will be held guilty as long as they live. If you keep away from a men who has the power to put you to death, you will not have to fear for your life; but if you go near him, be very careful, or he may kill you Be conscious that you are walking around hidden traps, that you are an easy target. Get to know the people round you as well as you can, and take advice only from those who are qualified to give it. Engage in conversation with intelligent men, and let the Law of the Most High be the topic of your discussions. Choose righteous people for your dinner companions. Your chief pride should be fear of the Lord.
If you stick something in your eye, tears will flow; and if you hurt a person deeply, you will discover his true feelings. If you throw stones at birds, you will scare them away; and if you insult a friend, you break up the friendship. Even if you have a violent argument with a friend, and speak sharply, all is not lost. You can still make it up with him. But any friend will leave you if you insult him, if you are arrogant, if you reveal his secrets, or if you turn on him unexpectedly. Gain the confidence of your neighbors if he is poor; then you can share his happiness if he becomes successful. Stand by him when better times come his way. Fumes and smoke appear before the flames do; insult come before violence. I will never be afraid to protect a friend, and I will never turn a friend away if he needs me.