Making friends is an important thing for every person, but is even more important after a move to a new location. Although it may seem like a daunting task, it is actually much easier than you may think. Here is a proven method for making good quality friendships after moving to a new location.
To make new friends, the first thing is to meet new people! If you already know a person or two in your new location, this can be easier, as your existing friend can introduce you to people in his or her circle of friendship. If you do not know anyone new, that is fine too. The best way to meet new people is to find a group of people who are already looking to make new friends. With the advent of the internet, the best way to do this is to check out groups of people on Meetup.com, Facebook, or on forums like city-data.com. This way you will be around a wide range of people that have the same mindset as you.
The next step is to participate with a group of people that are looking for friends several times. For example, if you joined a book club, you should attend at least three or so book club meetings. This will allow the other attendees to get a feel for your personality, and for you to get a feel for their heads. At the same time it will be an easy way to build up trust with others with low risk. Remember, everyone is interested in the activity and generally looking to make friends.
After becoming somewhat of a regular at a group social event, the next step is to invite the group or a small subset of the group out to eat. Eating together is a great way of bonding with others and a way to discuss things other than just the specific activity that you are participating in. If you are already attending a group meeting where the goal is just to eat together, then you are one step ahead of the game.
while eating dinner or lunch with the entire group is good, it also does not hurt to eat with a subset of the group. The fewer people in the group, the more bonding will go on.
You should eat together on several occasions to strengthen the bonding that does go on. After a few meals together, people will tend to open up more and be more comfortable with each other. As this process progresses, it is a good idea to throw in a personal comment every once in awhile. For example, talking about family or relationships. This will cause even further bonding and will likely cause reciprocation on the part of the other group members. It will also weed out those members that do not want closer friendships.
After getting comfortable with the social activities and eating events, it is a good idea to invite people from the group on a longer trip. For example, when at a dinner one may say that they are going on a snowboarding trip, a hiking trip, and is anyone else interested. Since you have already built up a bond, this should be enough for people to be willing to spend almost a full day together. Day long trips are a way to make real bonds with other people. When you spend a full day doing an activity with other people, it starts to feel like you have known them for a long time and have built up trust.
Once you have gone on one long trip, plan additional trips and repeat the above process. As you do so, you will become comfortable emailing or calling each member of your group. Sooner than you know it, you will have a group of close friends!