Is friendship possible between a man and a woman? Can a heterosexual have a best friend from the opposite-sex? What is the definition of “friend-zone”? These are questions that have been asked throughout the ages but without ever having a concrete explanation.
Men and women think differently, at least where the anatomy of the brain is concerned.
Neither a man nor a woman think about the friend-zone the way the other does. This is because the brain is comprised primarily of two different types of tissue, called gray matter (representing information processing centers) and white matter (working to network these processing centers).
Research has revealed that men think more with their gray matter while women think more using their white matter.
Social psychologists have spent vast amounts of time researching opposite-sex friendships. After bringing eighty-eight pairs of opposite-sex friends into a lab and asking series of questions to scale their romantic feelings toward their opposite-sex friends, researchers found that while women were generally not attracted to their male friends and saw the relationship as strictly platonic, men usually harbored romantic feelings for their lady friends.
Another research showed that a good percentage of people end up cheating on their spouses with those who were supposedly their closest opposite-sex friends.
Consider this. Would it be possible for a man whose best friend happens to be “Adriana Lima” changing beside him prior to heading out for a night’s party? Would it be possible for him to veer off the sexual attraction and maintain the friendship status amid the temptation?
Now let’s twist the situation. Would a woman be able to hold off her instincts if “David Beckham” happened to be her best friend? Even after a drunken night?
According to Wikipedia, the phrase “friend-zone” is one of high controversy whereby it states that one of the two parties wishes to enter a romantic or sexual relationship with the other.
So in my opinion, humans were created to love the opposite sex and be friends with those of the same sex, unless they were bi or homosexual.
Sure men and women can be friends but not without risk. A conditional friendship tends to be like a punishment more than a relationship.
Having coffee to talk about what’s happening in your life should be done with your partner and not the opposite-sex friend.
Hugging to ease pain and sadness should occur with the one you love and not the one you respect and care about in a platonic sense.
From a male’s perspective, I can fairly say that no man can ever be okay with his partner spending a vast amount of time with an opposite-sex friend discussing personal secrets, sexuality and daily problems.
That’s my take on the subject and it just reminds me of the movie When Harry Met Sally. The two protagonists end up becoming lovers no matter how hard they tried not to.